Emotional Intelligence

I have a feeling that comes from within, along with a situation; an external happening.
And, so i label it in my mind.

This is the simple reality; that we have feeling with experience.

And yet, we’ve failed to educate and to understand ourselves with this truth.

Imagine that you walk outside in a t-shirt. It’s 20 degrees and windy.
Your hands begin to feel cold and they soon begin to sting. Same with your cheeks and ears and other exposed parts.

What happens in your mind?
“This is awful!” Right?
We label our experience as good or bad, and our level of comfort has a lot to do with it.

Take now for example that you’ve stepped onto a tennis court for match, or that you’ve sat down at a desk for a pop quiz.
You feel “butterflies” in your stomach.
“I’m nervous”, you tell yourself.
“What if I lose?” “What if I fail?”
Your mind can quickly run away to a place that doesn’t serve you.

The point is, we’ve not been taught the importance of knowing ourselves.
We’re not good at recognizing, and understanding our feelings and emotions.
And, we don’t know how best to deal with them.

Next time you’re in a situation of discomfort, try paying attention to how your mind responds to your feelings.
Pay attention to the negative thinking that your mind so naturally creates.

If you can do this, and you can, try rewriting the script with positive thinking. Come up with another perspective that paints the situation and the other(s) involved in a more positive light.

Your cold hands are a feeling you’re having. It’s not “awful”, and it’s just temporary. If you were to think of the feeling as “amazing” and a gift that you’re having the experience… I’m certain the situation will be more tolerable.

The tennis match or pop quiz?
“This is exciting”.
“These feelings I’m having is my body preparing itself for success”. “I got this”.

What a different reality we can create for ourselves.

Unfortunately, most of us believe the story we tell ourselves.
“That person made me mad”.
“Of course I feel this way”.
“Who wouldn’t”?
“It’s their fault”.
“I have every right now to behave however I will, out of emotion and anger”.

Sound familiar?
Emotional intelligence.
That’s what we’re talking about here, but the thinking, study and understanding, and writing about it is limited.
And certainly, its place within our formal education is lacking and I’d argue there’s nothing more important.

That We’re Here

If your energy’s tied
To all the wrong things,
Then you’re out of touch
With all that life brings.

Connect with the earth.
And get to know love.
That He loves us
Is the gift from above.

That you have life
And are here with me.
That we have breath.
That we can see.

That we can touch.
That we can smell.
That we’ve been told
Of Heaven and Hell.

That we wake up
Each day from Dreams.
That we may question
The way life seems.

Our place and time
Will have an end.
Thank God for this.
For Love, Amen .

A Grateful Rider

I’m guided by
A higher force.
Like I am rider
And it is horse.

Should I decide
To take a nap,
Please let me rest.
Get off my back.

I ride a path
That is my own,
But I know that
I’m not alone.

I trust that we
Are here as one,
But let me ride
And have some fun.

We all have ego.
Many, vice.
Is this making sense?
I won’t say it twice.

I’m moving on.
Unclear’s the road.
But, one thing’s sure.
I have a load.

My burden seems
That which I’ve carried.
Pain I’ve held
From those I’ve burried.

But i ride on
And go my way.
Not up to me;
The horse’s say.

It Melts Away

Know that I’m Aware.
Where not, please know I Care.

The issues are so many.
Just so much I can see.

But, I walk, to take my Time.
I slow-down with a Rhyme.
Con si der ing
The life around me.
Thankful for this time.

I’ll often seek the Hawk.
I’ll sometimes find her Feather.
Just my time, just for a Walk.
Just me within the Weather.

Lovely is the sunshine.
I too enjoy the Rain.
Always tied to suffering
And managing our Pain.

And I’ve found that it’s O.K.
To just enjoy the Day.
To leave things as they are:
That Bullshit melts Away.

Peace on Earth

It’s another time
Around the globe.
Somewhere sits
A man in robe.

Hungry are a many.
Disease and war and peace.

But there’s no peace that lasts.
Ripples are the way.
We’re all connected here on earth.
Togther. One. Today.

Now.
Hear this.
Loud and clear.
Our heads are in our ass.

Be not content.
Do not ignore
The lessons from our past.

We’re holding everything.
And we’re held by want is here.

The things that we ignore
Are wrapped in all our fear.

But, we must follow hope.
And, love will light the way.
It’s up to us to see it.
We only have today.

Reflections

It can be hard to see what’s behind the reflection; impossible for some.
It takes refocus; an adjustment of sight for one to see beyond the surface.

In many cases though, that’s not enough.
But, with time, reflections too change.
Eventually, the clouds will part, and the water will be clear. Then, it becomes more a matter of perspective.
And, you may then simply need to get out of your own way, if you wish to see what lies beyond the surface.