Emotional Intelligence

I have a feeling that comes from within, along with a situation; an external happening.
And, so i label it in my mind.

This is the simple reality; that we have feeling with experience.

And yet, we’ve failed to educate and to understand ourselves with this truth.

Imagine that you walk outside in a t-shirt. It’s 20 degrees and windy.
Your hands begin to feel cold and they soon begin to sting. Same with your cheeks and ears and other exposed parts.

What happens in your mind?
“This is awful!” Right?
We label our experience as good or bad, and our level of comfort has a lot to do with it.

Take now for example that you’ve stepped onto a tennis court for match, or that you’ve sat down at a desk for a pop quiz.
You feel “butterflies” in your stomach.
“I’m nervous”, you tell yourself.
“What if I lose?” “What if I fail?”
Your mind can quickly run away to a place that doesn’t serve you.

The point is, we’ve not been taught the importance of knowing ourselves.
We’re not good at recognizing, and understanding our feelings and emotions.
And, we don’t know how best to deal with them.

Next time you’re in a situation of discomfort, try paying attention to how your mind responds to your feelings.
Pay attention to the negative thinking that your mind so naturally creates.

If you can do this, and you can, try rewriting the script with positive thinking. Come up with another perspective that paints the situation and the other(s) involved in a more positive light.

Your cold hands are a feeling you’re having. It’s not “awful”, and it’s just temporary. If you were to think of the feeling as “amazing” and a gift that you’re having the experience… I’m certain the situation will be more tolerable.

The tennis match or pop quiz?
“This is exciting”.
“These feelings I’m having is my body preparing itself for success”. “I got this”.

What a different reality we can create for ourselves.

Unfortunately, most of us believe the story we tell ourselves.
“That person made me mad”.
“Of course I feel this way”.
“Who wouldn’t”?
“It’s their fault”.
“I have every right now to behave however I will, out of emotion and anger”.

Sound familiar?
Emotional intelligence.
That’s what we’re talking about here, but the thinking, study and understanding, and writing about it is limited.
And certainly, its place within our formal education is lacking and I’d argue there’s nothing more important.

Nice. Glad you’re here.
Seems you’ve time for some thought.
I think you’re exploring…
The way you were taught.

How you found this.
Why you are here?
A chance encounter?
No way. That’s clear.

Like, meant to be.
In our place.
The folks we meet.
The things we chase.

Guided by
A higher force.
We are our parents
And theirs of course.

We know that we
Have no idea.
That life is more
Than we can see.

Give thanks now
For this little rhyme.
Good on you.
You took the time.

So as this ends
Move on with Love.
And, know you’re safe.
Loved from Above.

Be proud and well.
Give of yourself;
One big-key
In having health.

In touch within.
Your spirit grows.
We rise above
Our highs and lows.

As we move towards
A better place.
A deeper love
That’s one with grace.

Where compassion rules
And peace is guide.
Where darkness fades.
No one can hide.

The truth is out.
Secrets gone.
The sick are healed.
It’s on and on.

Eternity.
The way it is.
The way it should be.
We are His.

In the light.
All that can be.
Together. One.
We finally see.

That We’re Here

If your energy’s tied
To all the wrong things,
Then you’re out of touch
With all that life brings.

Connect with the earth.
And get to know love.
That He loves us
Is the gift from above.

That you have life
And are here with me.
That we have breath.
That we can see.

That we can touch.
That we can smell.
That we’ve been told
Of Heaven and Hell.

That we wake up
Each day from Dreams.
That we may question
The way life seems.

Our place and time
Will have an end.
Thank God for this.
For Love, Amen .

The Ball’s in Your Court

It’s one thing to think
And to let your thoughts run.
It’s another to share them.
“He’s come undone”!

What is he thinking?
That’s not how I think!
He must be crazy,
Or into the drink!

And yet, I know
What you can not.
You’re lacking context.
You’re reading what’s not.

You’re reading words
Through a limited scope.
That you enjoy this and think…
That is my hope.

These words are not here
For you to figure me out.
But, they may help you question
What you’re all about.

From my brain to yours.
Like, Tag. You’re it.
This meditation is over.
Do you think it was shit?

It Melts Away

Know that I’m Aware.
Where not, please know I Care.

The issues are so many.
Just so much I can see.

But, I walk, to take my Time.
I slow-down with a Rhyme.
Con si der ing
The life around me.
Thankful for this time.

I’ll often seek the Hawk.
I’ll sometimes find her Feather.
Just my time, just for a Walk.
Just me within the Weather.

Lovely is the sunshine.
I too enjoy the Rain.
Always tied to suffering
And managing our Pain.

And I’ve found that it’s O.K.
To just enjoy the Day.
To leave things as they are:
That Bullshit melts Away.

Peace on Earth

It’s another time
Around the globe.
Somewhere sits
A man in robe.

Hungry are a many.
Disease and war and peace.

But there’s no peace that lasts.
Ripples are the way.
We’re all connected here on earth.
Togther. One. Today.

Now.
Hear this.
Loud and clear.
Our heads are in our ass.

Be not content.
Do not ignore
The lessons from our past.

We’re holding everything.
And we’re held by want is here.

The things that we ignore
Are wrapped in all our fear.

But, we must follow hope.
And, love will light the way.
It’s up to us to see it.
We only have today.

Rise up

Minimal
Chemicals.
Gunna give myself
The good stuff.
Tough enough
With my brain
With insane
At the edge;
Like a bubble
Where trouble
Slaps you
In the face
Where disgrace
Is a race
To forget.
Confused
We lose sight
Of the Light,
So we fight
In defense
To protect.
Erected
And projected
Are ideas,
Just thoughts
That we consume.

With costumes
We play a role,
And, explore
A finite space
In time…

So take this rhyme
As love.

Be filled;
Full with love
To the top
And break through.

Unbound.
Above and beyond the fight.

Stand
With love.
For love.

Tend to your pains
And the pains of others.

You needn’t disguise,
Or hide.
Rise
Up.

Our Walls, From Within

Things are as they are.
Notice your own responses/ reactions.
When you’re holding something against someone, let it go, and try an act of kindness towards that person.
When you decide you’re right, do you stop listening? If so, decide not to be right, but to listen and to be open minded. You may just hear something and learn something new.

Awareness of our own thoughts, perspectives, and behavior is critical if we are to grow and to evolve the best version of ourself.

We must notice the walls we put up, and decide to breathe and break through them.

Be Yourself

This about it.
It’s how you take it.
Is how you see it,
And step forward
Can’t ignore it.
Movin on.
And holdin on,
And Not.
What it is,
To you.
Ain’t to me.
Can’t see.
That I’m beyond you.
But, in reach,
So I teach.
Ain’t wrong.
Then it’s gone,
And won’t come back.
And, you’re seen
With lack of tact,
But the fact is
You’re hacked,
So you help
The way it is,
By the way you see his.
And, more than you take-in,
You ain’t fakin
What you make of this place,
Like a race
That won’t end,
After you move on.
Gone.
So you gotta leave it better
Than you found it.
Surrounded
You find it,
Reminded by what happened
Saddend,
Yet struck,
And compelled to duck
The way you are.
Far from how you perceive
They want you to be.
But you can only be yourself.