We learn as we go.

You know what’s not working,
And you think you know why.
So you make some adjustments.
Which you’re eager to try.

You’re mostly self taught,
But you’re wanting to learn.
You’re just not quite sure
Which way you should turn.

There is no wrong answer.
But please, keep YOUR head.
You won’t have the answers
From all the books that you’ve read.

Others opinions?
Their “facts” and advice?
Grain of salt, friends.
I won’t say it twice.

Give yourself credit.
You’ll find the way.
Believe in your progress.
That’s all I will say.

Child-Like Leaders

Your head’s in the sand
And you don’t even know it.
Like the truth is the bar,
And you are below it.

You may-not know better.
Either way, you’re to blame.
You’re the Leader.
I think it’s a shame.

What’s worse is-that
I’m sharing this light.
Your reaction?
Fight or flight?

And-so this is your ego.
You’ll not be confronted!!!
But, with a small and closed mind
Your growth will be stunted.

Better said, you’re ignorant.
And, you’re still like a child.
You never grew up.
You’re a Leader? That’s wild.

Emotional Intelligence

I have a feeling that comes from within, along with a situation; an external happening.
And, so i label it in my mind.

This is the simple reality; that we have feeling with experience.

And yet, we’ve failed to educate and to understand ourselves with this truth.

Imagine that you walk outside in a t-shirt. It’s 20 degrees and windy.
Your hands begin to feel cold and they soon begin to sting. Same with your cheeks and ears and other exposed parts.

What happens in your mind?
“This is awful!” Right?
We label our experience as good or bad, and our level of comfort has a lot to do with it.

Take now for example that you’ve stepped onto a tennis court for match, or that you’ve sat down at a desk for a pop quiz.
You feel “butterflies” in your stomach.
“I’m nervous”, you tell yourself.
“What if I lose?” “What if I fail?”
Your mind can quickly run away to a place that doesn’t serve you.

The point is, we’ve not been taught the importance of knowing ourselves.
We’re not good at recognizing, and understanding our feelings and emotions.
And, we don’t know how best to deal with them.

Next time you’re in a situation of discomfort, try paying attention to how your mind responds to your feelings.
Pay attention to the negative thinking that your mind so naturally creates.

If you can do this, and you can, try rewriting the script with positive thinking. Come up with another perspective that paints the situation and the other(s) involved in a more positive light.

Your cold hands are a feeling you’re having. It’s not “awful”, and it’s just temporary. If you were to think of the feeling as “amazing” and a gift that you’re having the experience… I’m certain the situation will be more tolerable.

The tennis match or pop quiz?
“This is exciting”.
“These feelings I’m having is my body preparing itself for success”. “I got this”.

What a different reality we can create for ourselves.

Unfortunately, most of us believe the story we tell ourselves.
“That person made me mad”.
“Of course I feel this way”.
“Who wouldn’t”?
“It’s their fault”.
“I have every right now to behave however I will, out of emotion and anger”.

Sound familiar?
Emotional intelligence.
That’s what we’re talking about here, but the thinking, study and understanding, and writing about it is limited.
And certainly, its place within our formal education is lacking and I’d argue there’s nothing more important.

That We’re Here

If your energy’s tied
To all the wrong things,
Then you’re out of touch
With all that life brings.

Connect with the earth.
And get to know love.
That He loves us
Is the gift from above.

That you have life
And are here with me.
That we have breath.
That we can see.

That we can touch.
That we can smell.
That we’ve been told
Of Heaven and Hell.

That we wake up
Each day from Dreams.
That we may question
The way life seems.

Our place and time
Will have an end.
Thank God for this.
For Love, Amen .

Out of Business

Holy Cow!
To put it politely.
You haven’t a clue.
Not even slightly.

You’re not even aware,
You don’t even know.
You’ve got to see this.
C’mon! Let’s go!

Can you believe it?!
What do you think?!
We never thought
It would actually sink!

But here we are
And there it is.
That’s it. It’s over.
It’s no longer his.

We knew he sucked.
We believed he was lost.
A matter of ego.
And here’s the cost.

The price to pay.
His business is gone.
He wouldn’t listen.
We were a pawn.

A cog in the wheel.
The machine couldn’t last.
He never learned
From the lessons from past.

He ignored the truth
And saw what he wanted.
Karma has spoken
And now he’ll be haunted.

And he’ll move on.
But you know he won’t learn.
Despite the scar.
In spite of the burn.

He’ll just blame it on others,
Like it wasn’t his place.
Those others were fat
And a total disgrace.

Funny not funny.
Dissapointing and sad.
He’ll never know
What we knew that he had.

Ignorance

Better alone with my thoughts,
Than letting them fly.
So much to consider.
Plus, I’m a white guy.

Shit. That’s two strikes
In many a book.
Sucks we can’t all
Help he way that we look.

And, why should I say
What needs to be heard?
I’m not taking the blame.
That’d be absurd.

So many layers of bullshit
And money’s the tie.
Yet, most are confused
And are living a lie.

So, I’ll hold my tongue
It’s self preservation.
I’m not buying
That we’ve free speach in our Nation.

There’s always a cost;
A price to pay.
In a world filled with morons.
That I can say.